With 25 years of experience in the field of eating disorders, Dr. Bolter has developed the

Eating and Emotion Weight Management Program

as an effective alternative to traditional weight loss programs.

Are you looking for a new weight loss program that will be more successful than those you’ve tried in the past?

If your answer is yes, then you are probably eager to gain control over your eating and start losing weight.

Are you also worried that this attempt at weight loss will not be any more successful than previous attempts to lose weight and keep it off?

If your answer is also yes, you likely feel confused, frustrated, or even like a failure about why this keeps happening.


The Eating and Emotion Weight Management Program is designed to help you gain the self-awareness needed to identify and manage your emotional eating triggers and change your eating behavior forever.

Diets fail because they focus on changing what you eat and very little on how and why you decide what to eat. Not addressing the reasons behind your eating choices stands in your way of achieving permanent weight loss.

If you chronically struggle with your eating and weight and you are tired of yo-yo dieting, this program is for you!

Overview of The Program

The Eating and Emotion Weight Management Program utilizes a self-regulated eating approach. First, we will work on increasing your awareness of your current eating habits and patterns during discussions about your food entries for the week. Typically, diet programs are not interested in examining your current eating habits, but rather introduce a specific nutrition program that prescribes the types of foods and amounts you need to achieve weight loss. Even when you are not dieting, you are probably using a diet mentality, that is, judging your eating and yourself by how well you are or are not following the guidelines. Once you begin to recognize how much your diet thinking dictates your eating, you will realize how these thoughts and feelings sabotage your weight loss and maintenance efforts.

The next step in the self-regulated eating approach is to replace your diet mentality thinking with awareness of your body's internal eating cues of satiety, hunger, and fullness. You will learn to depend on these physical eating signals to regulate your eating instead of relying on the "diet rules" that keep you in your head and not connected to your body.

As your eating becomes more regulated, you will then be able to recognize when your eating has little or nothing to do with your physical eating cues. These other cues may include emotional (sadness, loneliness, anger), environmental (food court at the mall), non-eating physical signals(sleep deprivation, stress, dehydration), or situational (birthday celebrations, dining out, holiday treats). You will learn to develop coping strategies to effectively manage these triggers without overeating or binge eating.

The ultimate goal of the self-regulated eating approach is for you to feel in control of your eating and confident in your ability to make the optimal food decisions for yourself. The goal is not immediate and rapid weight loss. Rather, you can expect gradual and permanent weight loss as your eating becomes more consistently self-regulated. While it may take months to transition to self-regulated eating and stop overeating and/or binge eating, you will experience immediate and ongoing changes in your attitude and self-assurance to effectively manage your eating and weight.

The Eating and Emotion Weight Management Program can take up to a year to complete successfully. The first three months, weekly sessions are usually necessary. During the next three months, the frequency can be decreased to bi-monthly sessions. After six months, follow-up visits are scheduled on a bi-monthly or monthly basis as needed.

Fees will be negotiated on an individual basis. The program services may be covered by your health insurance.

"The ultimate goal of the self-regulated eating approach is for you to feel in control of your eating and confident in your ability to make the optimal food decisions for yourself."

“While weight loss programs tell you what to eat, they do not address the reasons why you eat when you’re not physically hungry.”

Philosophy of the Program

There is a reason why your efforts to maintain your weight loss keep getting sabotaged, and it is not because you are lazy, undisciplined, unmotivated, or genetically predisposed.

The reason your weight loss efforts have not been successful is because you probably eat for reasons other than hunger. You could be triggered by emotional, psychological, physical, and situational cues that cause you to eat unnecessary food. This makes you fail at your diet and feel out of control. The key to feeling in control of your eating and weight is to become aware of your emotional triggers and learn strategies to manage your moods, feelings, and stressful situations. If you do not understand the reasons why you eat when you’re not hungry and learn how to effectively deal with these reasons, you will never be successful at maintaining weight loss.

“While weight loss programs tell you what to eat, they do not address the reasons why you eat when you’re not physically hungry.”

Diet programs provide a lot of useful information. Diets help you understand how much you need to eat to lose weight, the best structure for your eating, and the healthiest kinds of foods. These programs assume that the problem is that you don’t know what and how much to eat and that having this information will lead to weight loss and maintenance. However, for many people, it’s not that simple and diet programs alone are not enough. While weight loss programs tell you what to eat, they do not address the reasons why we eat when we’re not physically hungry. If you could stop eating when you’re not hungry, you would have already done it. You would be doing it now and not looking for yet another diet program.

As an experienced clinical psychologist with a specialty in eating disorders, I offer a safe and comfortable place in which to explore your emotional eating and, without judgment, help you understand why you choose to cope with food. I created the Eating and Emotion Weight Management Program specifically to help you increase your awareness at the time you are eating when you’re not hungry and build the skills necessary to be able to prevent future emotionally-driven eating. I will help you learn how to deal with these feelings and situations so that you can be successful in meeting your non-food needs without eating.

About Dr. Bolter

Kay Bolter Ph.D.

I am a licensed clinical psychologist and have been in private practice in San Carlos, CA for over 20 years. I treat adults with a wide range of issues, including depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety disorders, relationship problems, and stress management. I also specialize in the treatment of eating disorders. While I treat the full spectrum of eating disorders, including anorexics, bulimics, and binge eaters, I have always had a special interest in those clients who are referred to as compulsive overeaters or emotional eaters. These individuals struggle with their eating but typically do not get as much attention from medical or eating disorder professionals.

Through my extensive background and experience in the treatment of eating disorders, I have a thorough understanding of the issues that individuals encounter when dealing with emotional eating and feel confident in my approach to solving these problems. I have also had my own struggles in the past that provide me with a compassionate perspective on this issue. I understand through personal experience the frustration of going through diets and being successful at losing weight but unsuccessful at maintaining it. Based on my own experiences and professional expertise, I feel uniquely positioned to address this issue and provide the help that people truly need.

My approach focuses on creating a safe environment where individuals feel comfortable sharing their experiences. I want my clients to learn how to feel good about themselves while working through some pretty difficult issues. I truly believe that this program is essential to gaining the level of self-awareness needed to successfully overcome emotional eating.

Kay Bolter Ph.D.


To obtain more information or to set-up an appointment to begin the program, please call Dr. Bolter at (650) 591-1366.

You can also reach Dr. Bolter via email or by completing the contact form.

Kay Bolter, Ph.D.

1355 B San Carlos Ave

San Carlos, CA 94070

(650) 591-1366


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